没有人能让你按照固定的方式思考或感受,是你去选择如何解释他们的行为。所以通过改变这种解释,你可能让自己更积极地思考或感受。
Karen Renee gives an example. Maybe you habitually tell yourself: "Today I [action] and everyone laughed. They must think I'm stupid. I'm stupid. Everyone knows I'm stupid. I can't face them again!"
Karen Renee给出了一个例子。也许你会习惯性地告诉自己:“今天我(动作)和其他人都笑了。他们一定会认为我很傻。我很傻。每个人都知道我很傻。我无法再次面对他们了!”
Instead, Renee says you might tell yourself: "Today I [action] and everyone laughed. I think I cheered up a couple people who were having a bad day, even if it was by accident …"
相反,Renee说你可以这样告诉你自己:“今天我(动作)和其他人都笑了。我觉得我鼓舞了一对今天过的很糟糕的夫妇,即使是意外...”
Renee cites Brene Brown's research on getting over shame, and worrying what other people think of you. Brown recently told Tech Insider that her No. 1 "life hack” for lasting relationships is to recognize that your perception of your partner's behavior is "the story I'm making up."
Renee引用Brene Brown的研究来克服羞愧以及对别人想法的担心。Brown最近告诉《技术内幕》,她维持关系的头号“生活技巧”,就是意识到自己对伴侣行为的认知是源于“我自己编的故事。”
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