但如果你在谈话中不发表意见,你就不会真正做好自己的工作-作为一名勤奋的员工、富有同情心的同事或深思熟虑的领导者。所以你能做什么?
First, realize how psychologically difficult — and worthwhile — speaking up can be.
首先,要意识到大声说出来在心理上是多么困难-而且是值得的。
Research on "realistic optimism” shows that when people set out to do difficult, personally meaningful things, they're more likely to follow through if they expect that the task will be challenging. In speaking up, as in life, one must appreciate the difference between believing you will succeed and assuming that you will do so easily.
对“现实乐观”的研究表明,当人们开始做困难的、个人有意义的事情时,如果他们期望这项任务具有挑战性,他们就更有可能坚持下去。在说话时,就像在生活中一样,一个人必须理解相信你会成功和假设你会轻易成功之间的区别。
To wit: When New York University psychologist Gabriele Oettingen studied women on a weight-loss program, she found that those who thought they would succeed lost 26 more pounds than self-doubters. However, those who thought they would easily succeed lost 24 pounds less than their more realistic peers.
换句话说:当纽约大学心理学家加布里埃尔·奥廷根研究女性减肥项目时,她发现那些认为自己会成功的人比自以为是的人减掉了26磅。然而,那些认为自己很容易成功的人比更现实的同龄人减掉了24磅。
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