研究表明,人际温暖解释了自我应验的预期接纳预言;希望被认可的研究对象被认为更讨人喜欢。(用通俗的语言解释,就是当你认为别人会喜欢你时,你会表现得更自然,看起来更友善——这会让你更讨人喜欢,因为人们通常更青睐热情友好的人。)
All of which sounds great, but the trick, when you're shy or insecure, is actually believing that other people will like you. When you're in an unfamiliar setting or an uncomfortable position, it's a lot easier to assume people won't like you.
这听起来很有道理,但这个方法要你在害羞或不安时,真心相信别人会喜欢你。可是当你身处一个陌生环境或尴尬境地时,更容易假设对方不会喜欢你。
So how can you convince yourself that people will like you? Positive self-talk ("They're going to love me!") won't cut it.
那你怎么能说服自己是人见人爱的呢?积极的自我对话(“他们会爱我的!”)是不够的。
Instead, close your eyes, take a deep breath, and commit to taking a few steps that ensure almost anyone will like you. (When results are basically guaranteed, it's easy to feel more confident and self-assured.)
你可以做的是,闭上眼睛,深吸一口气,并坚持使用几个让你人见人爱的招数。(当效果基本上得到保证时,你会更容易保持自信感。)
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