The maxim that nice guys finish last isn’t quite true. But if you are too nice you can be seen as a soft touch or as ineffective.
有句谚语叫做“人善被人欺(nice guys finish last),这话并不完全正确,但如果你过于与人为善,别人会认为你易受他人影响或没什么效率。
What are the problems with niceness?
作好人到底有什么问题?
“Niceness can be counterproductive, says Mike Leibling, a coach and author of How People Tick. “If, for example, you’re trying to fire someone, you can’t really soften the blow and if you start telling them how sorry you are?.?.?.? if you really were sorry, you wouldn’t be doing it. If there’s news that needs to be stated, being nice can get in the way.
《人性摸透透》(How People Tick)一书的作者、辅导师麦克·莱步林(Mike Leibling)说:“作好人可能产生反效果。比如说,你正试图解雇某人,那你不可能真正减轻他受到的打击。假如你第一句说的是你对此感到很难过……你要是真的难过,就根本不会那么做。如果必须要宣布什么消息,那么作好人只会妨碍这项任务。
Russ Edelman, chief executive of The Corridor Company and co-author of Nice Guys Can Get the Corner Office, adds: “Often people feel very nice guys have no boundaries and walk all over them. Or sometimes nice people do nothing about a problem until someone pushes them over the edge. Then they snap and become nasty.
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