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恋爱关系中最致命的10种表达

When you're married or in a long-term relationship, some things are better left unsaid.

结婚以后，或者处在长期的恋爱关系中的时候，有一些话还是不说为好。

Below, marriage therapists and other experts share 10 phrases and statements to strike from your vocabulary now.

下面，婚姻咨询师和其他专家给我们分享了要从我们的语库中划掉的10个短语和句子。

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1. “You never do the dishes. You always just leave them sitting there.”

“你从来都不洗碗，总是把它们扔在那就不管了。”

The dishes are a placeholder for pretty much anything here. Whatever the issue, using accusatory blanket terms like “never” and “always” tends to end the same way every time: with you and your boo engaged in an overblown argument. Plus, there's a good chance your generalization is wrong, said Samantha Rodman, a psychologist in Takoma Park, Maryland.

来自马里兰州塔科马帕克的心理学家萨曼莎·罗德曼说，这里的碗碟可以用任何事物代替。无论是什么问题，只要用到“从来不”、“总是”等充满指责意味的概括性字眼，每次都会导致同样的结果：你和伴侣大吵一架。而且，你的概括很有可能是错误的。

“Nothing is black and white so telling a partner that she's never on time or he's always selfish can't be right,” she told The Huffington Post. “These types of statements only lead to a prosecutor-defendant dynamic, which is not what you want in your marriage.”