生活并不会尽如人意,当不如意时,你和别人一样每天都有24小时。快乐的人让他们的时间变得有价值。他们思考让自己心存感激的事,而不是抱怨事情为什么会这样以及应该是什么样。他们找到问题的最佳解决方法,处理它,然后继续前进。没有什么像悲观那样助长不快乐。用悲观的态度处理问题,除了破坏你的情绪,还成为了一个自我应验的预言:如果你期待不好的事,那不好的事很有可能发生。悲观的想法很难摆脱,直到你意识到它们有多不合逻辑。强迫自己看清现实,你会发现事情并不像看起来那么遭。
9. Hanging around negative people.
9. 和消极的人在一起无所事事
Complainers and negative people are bad news because they wallow in their problems and fail to focus on solutions. They want people to join their pity party so that they can feel better about themselves. People often feel pressure to listen to complainers because they don’t want to be seen as callous or rude, but there’s a fine line between lending a sympathetic ear and getting sucked into their negative emotional spirals. You can avoid getting drawn in only by setting limits and distancing yourself when necessary. Think of it this way: If a person were smoking, would you sit there all afternoon inhaling the second-hand smoke? You’d distance yourself, and you should do the same with negative people. A great way to set limits is to ask them how they intend to fix their problems. The complainer will then either quiet down or redirect the conversation in a productive direction.
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