为了快乐,我们需要对生活有掌控权,这也就是为什么责备和幸福之间彼此不相容。当你因为坏事发生在自己身上而责备别人或是环境时,就决定了你对生活没有掌控权,这对你的情绪是很糟糕的。
4. Controlling.
4. 控制
It’s hard to be happy without feeling in control of your life, but you can take this too far in the other direction by making yourself unhappy through trying to control too much. This is especially true with people. The only person you can control in your life is you. When you feel that nagging desire to dictate other people’s behavior, this will inevitably blow up in your face and make you unhappy. Even if you can control someone in the short term, it usually requires pressure in the form of force or fear, and treating people this way won’t leave you feeling good about yourself.
对生活没有掌控是很难快乐的,但过犹不及,你也可能因为掌控太多而让自己不快乐。这对于人们来说尤为正确。你生命中唯一能控制的人就是自己。当你感到挥之不去的欲望指示了别人的行为,这将不可避免地表现在你脸上,并让你感到不高兴。即使你能阶段性地控制别人,通常需要武力或是恐惧的压力。以这种方式对待别人不会让你对自己感觉良好。
5. Criticizing.
5. 批判
Judging other people and speaking poorly of them is a lot like overindulging in a decadent dessert; it feels good while you’re doing it, but afterwards, you feel guilty and sick. Sociopaths find real pleasure in being mean. For the rest of us, criticizing other people (even privately or to ourselves) is just a bad habit that’s intended to make us feel better about ourselves. Unfortunately, it doesn’t. It just creates a spiral of negativity.
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