不要过分自责,就是说不要把悲伤的原因揽到自己身上。承担责任是应该的,但是痛苦时不要过分情绪化,要清楚一件事,并不是所有的坏事都是自己造成的。
When Dave died, I had a very common reaction, which was to blame myself. He died in seconds from a cardiac arrhythmia. I poured over his medical records asking what I could have—or should have—done. It wasn’t until I learned about the three P’s that I accepted that I could not have prevented his death. His doctors had not identified his coronary artery disease. I was an economics major; how could I have?
戴夫去世后我就忍不住责怪自己。他在几秒钟内死于心脏病突发。我翻遍他的病历寻找线索,看看我要是做了什么,戴夫就不会死。明白这三条原则之后,我才慢慢接受不管怎样都救不了他这个事实。他的医生们没发现他有心脏病,我一个学经济的又怎么可能发现呢?
Studies show that getting past personalization can actually make you stronger. Teachers who knew they could do better after students failed adjusted their methods and saw future classes go on to excel. College swimmers who underperformed but believed they were capable of swimming faster did. Not taking failures personally allows us to recover—and even to thrive.
研究表明减少过分自责确实会让人强大起来。学生挂科之后老师与其后悔没尽力,不如努力改进教学方法帮助以后的学生取得好成绩。大学里游泳运动员成绩不理想,但是只要坚信可以游得更好,就能实现。只有走出过分自责的阴影,才能尽快恢复,甚至督促自己做得更好。
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